I had a boyfriend that a friend of mine abhorred. She thought that he was wrong for me. No sense of humor, she claimed. What happened was, she made a joke in front of him and he didn't laugh. In fact, he just stared blankly at her and looked away. A very awkward silence ensued. From then on, she disliked him. Intensely. I almost told my friend, "you just don't like him because he didn't think your joke was funny." Ho ho.

But I didn't say anything. I mean, I was the one in the relationship, not her, so frankly, why does it matter if she thinks he's not funny? Or if he's the sort who doesn't recognize funny even if it smacked him in the face? Of course, I didn't end up with the guy. But it wasn't for lack of a sense of humor. If anything, he was hilarious. He made me laugh.

The lesson in this little tale now is this: you like who you like. If a friend or two doesn't like your honey, then that's their problem, not yours. But if you have other friends from different circles who do not like him, pay attention. They might be seeing something that you're not seeing.