The Bad Boy

Your mother warned you about him. The bad boy.

You know in your heart and mind that he's bad news. Yet that doesn't stop you from being with him. You still want him. It's intoxicating having him around. He came barging into your life and swept you with his charms and overall badness.

You know that you're not headed anywhere with him. It's not as if you're thinking of marrying him. But being with him is so exciting, you can't let go. But admit it, at the back of your mind, your bad boy is your ultimate challenge. You want to see IF and HOW MUCH you can change him. Maybe you'll be the one to tame this wild boy. It's exhilarating living in the now with him. The future? He's not in that picture.

Don't get me wrong. Bad boys teach you how to have fun and play - play dirty. Bad boys did not become bad boys by not learning fun. Boy, they know fun. Good guys teach you how to play nice. Sometimes, a girl has to learn how to play both ways.

After being with a bad boy and getting burned by it, you realize what it is you're really looking for in a guy. You start setting your standards. You start defining for yourself how you want to be treated. You realize that excitement alone is not enough to sustain a relationship, but excitement is not a bad thing to have in any relationship. Living in the present is not a bad way to live either.

Other women though, never get over bad boys. Bad boys are too irresistible that these women keep finding themselves with such guys over and over again. I wish you much luck.

If you're with a bad boy right now, just remember that he's probably Mr. Right Now, not Mr. Right. Keep that in mind and you'll spare yourself much heartache.