Signs that you are a clingy girlfriend
Are you the stereotypical clingy girlfriend? I came across this, which I thought made sense. Pretty funny.
Being clingy often comes out in a relationship - whether platonic or romantic. Even friends can act clingy. It can be irritating, but honestly, it's easier to let go of a friend than to break up with a boyfriend. There is no need to undergo the high drama of breaking up with a friend. You can just quietly slip away, hopefully unnoticed. But with a boyfriend, it's different.
Here are some signs that you should watch out for:
1. You told him, "I cannot live without you," only to hear from the grapevine that you're obsessive, a leech and a loser.
2. You can't go a day without seeing him. And he doesn't feel the same way.
3. You can't help but call him every couple of minutes/hours. You're starting to get his voicemail.
4. You cry when he doesn't call.
5. You get paranoid that he is dating other people behind your back.
6. You check match.com, eharmony and other dating sites if his profile implies he's actively searching for other women.
7. You check his friendster and myspace to see if any other girls whom you hate or were actively flirting with him are on his friends list.
8. You start issuing ultimatums on your relationship.
9. You keep e-mailing him little love notes. He doesn't reply back.
10. You check your IM in invisible mode to see if he's online. If he is, you ask your friends to IM him and ask him how he feels about you.
11. You install software in your joint computer to monitor what he does online.
12. You keep asking him if he loves you.
You believe your partner will complete you and you are incomplete without him. But you also know most people want to set themselves free when entangled in such a relationship. It suffocates and it aggravates. It pushes them away. It backfires.
Instead of bringing the two of you closer, it drives you two apart, which is self-defeating and contrary to what you wanted in the first place. Even if there are good feelings, they dissipate pretty quickly in the face of such an onslaught of emotions.
People need space. People do not want to be smothered. People need time with other people. If the two of you are dating exclusively, all the more so. The more you want to hold on to someone, the more they are inclined to leave.
If your feelings are as strong as you think it is, it'll do you and your relationship much good if you'd take a step back. Let him and your relationship breathe.

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