Hands down, I say it's a girl thing. I know, I know, it's so sexist. Such a dated concept. After all, there are men who are communicative with their partners, right? RIGHT? Sure there are. But the thing is, there are still more women than men who do the talking. So there.
Why is this so? Are women meant to feel irritated, annoyed, frustrated, etcetera with their partners who refuse to speak and talk about how they feel forever and ever?
Sadly, I'd say yes. However, hope is not lost.
If you're with someone who is not quite the talker, here are some things you can keep in mind.
Accept this: he will never talk as much as you do. Once you've accepted that, then it'll be easier for the two of you. I know how easy it is to talk a mile per minute, but guys aren't really programmed for that. Especially when they need to talk about...heaven forbid...their feelings. Whoever came up with the saying, "actions speak louder than words" must definitely be a guy. Because it sounds exactly what a guy would do. They'd show their love through actions. So ladies, pay serious attention to the actions of your man.
Give him the chance to talk. Sometimes, our guys don't talk simply because they can't. There's no lull in the conversation for them to contribute their own words of wisdom. So this will sound really rude, but shut up. Not just when you're trying to give him the cold shoulder. Remember, not a lot of people are comfortable with silence. If you keep quiet sometimes, then he'll rise up to the occasion to fill in the silence. He'll talk. You'd be surprised at the things he'll talk about.
Don't take it personally. Some guys will share their insights. Sometimes you'd feel affronted or even attacked. Unless you two have some simmering hostility going on, it's not about you. What's more, you wanted him to talk. Listen and keep in mind, he's allowing you to know what goes on in his mind.
Even if the need to talk is a girl thing, you can get your guy to talk. Just leave the marathon chats with your girl friends. They'll be more suited and better equipped to handle that.